“This situation didn’t just happen by chance,” she says. “I don’t dream of, nor do I want, a family or children. Of course, I’d like a wedding, but I’m more inclined towards adoption.”
Her words reflect the growing number of choices Lithuanian women are making, as traditional expectations – to have children and build a family – are no longer a given. Last year, the country reached a new low in birth rates, and women’s opinions often reveal why this number is so low.
“The thought of being pregnant actually scares me,” says Ema. “I don’t feel a maternal instinct. I don’t feel lonely – I’m living a wonderful life at my own pace. I think women aren’t having children because they don’t feel safe. It’s not normal that, for example, after a divorce, the responsibility for children falls solely on the woman’s shoulders.”
Ema also mentions that she admires professional model Simona Starkute and her insights.
“Her opinions often align with mine. But I don’t feel alone – I’m creating a life that I enjoy. I don’t necessarily have to live according to societal standards. I’m happy without a family. I’m planning to get three dogs and maybe adopt a child,” she shares.
Her story is just one of many examples of Lithuanian women boldly changing traditional life scenarios and creating their own happiness according to their personal needs. This trend raises questions about societal safety, gender roles, and the lack of support systems that often lead women to choose not to have children.
