Well-intentioned words can sometimes do more harm than good when speaking with someone living with dementia. According to Alzheimer Netherlands, certain phrases—though meant to comfort or reassure—can actually increase confusion, frustration, or distress for individuals experiencing cognitive decline.
Experts emphasize that communication with people who have dementia requires sensitivity and awareness. Even seemingly harmless comments like “You just told me that” or “Don’t you remember?” can highlight memory loss in a way that feels accusatory or shaming. Instead, caregivers and loved ones are encouraged to respond with patience, validate emotions, and focus on the present moment rather than correcting inaccuracies.
Other phrases to avoid include questioning a person’s reality (“That never happened”) or making assumptions about their abilities (“You’re too young to have dementia”). Such remarks may undermine their sense of self and contribute to feelings of isolation or embarrassment. Alzheimer Netherlands advises redirecting conversations gently and maintaining a calm, supportive tone.
The guidance aims to improve daily interactions for the millions affected by dementia worldwide. As the condition progresses, preserving dignity and emotional connection becomes increasingly important—not just for the person with dementia, but as well for their families and caregivers.
For more information on living with and supporting someone with dementia, resources are available through dementia-focused platforms such as Dementie.nl, which offers expert advice, practical tips, and information provided by Alzheimer Netherlands.
